Job Loss Can Cause Real Pain

Think about the last time you introduced yourself, or were introduced to someone by a friend. How long did it take before your job was mentioned? For many of us, our jobs are a huge part of our identity. Our work is what we spend much of our time doing, and is often...
When They Tell You to “Man Up”

When They Tell You to “Man Up”

How many times have you been told, or seen other men told, to “man up”? Those two words seem to come out of the woodwork whenever a man shows vulnerability or pain. The phrase “man up” makes it harder for men to heal, and warps our ideas of what ideal manhood is. It...
Verbal and Emotional Abuse Cause Serious Harm

Verbal and Emotional Abuse Cause Serious Harm

How often, when you’re asked if you’re okay, do you answer “I’m fine”? How much thought have you given to whether that’s true — and what experiences might have left you not “fine”?  For many men who’ve survived verbal and/or emotional trauma, it’s hard to come...
The Wounds that Time Won’t Heal

The Wounds that Time Won’t Heal

When I speak to men who experienced abuse as children, I see a common pattern: even after the physical wounds heal, emotional wounds are still there. Physical pain can be traumatizing, and it’s not the only kind of pain. Traumatic experiences can also scar us in...