Unbound

 

 

 

Hurt Breeds More Hurt

One of trauma’s detrimental effects is that it can be cyclical. How many times have you heard people say, “abuse survivors often go on to abuse others”?  This is because hurting people often hurt people. They lash out of their pain. They believe their trauma is...

Why Do I Resist Taking My Meds?

I’m in the kitchen, it’s 1:12pm, and I haven’t taken my morning meds yet. They’re the meds I need to reduce my anxiety and help me concentrate (for anxiety and ADD). Why do I do that? My wife Laura and I had been married a couple of years at that time, and things were...

Trauma Can Affect Anyone

When someone has experienced a trauma, their reaction is sometimes, “I never thought this kind of thing would happen to me.”  We generally don’t like to think about the horrors of trauma. It’s heartbreaking and damaging. So, even when we see others experiencing...

Trauma Really Affects Children’s Brains

What do you think of when you hear the word “trauma”? In medical speaking, serious injury is often called “trauma,” such as head trauma from a car crash.  But mental trauma is very real, too. Our brains aren’t just like arms or legs -- they control every aspect of how...

Fear, and When It Becomes Harmful

Your knees are shaking. You cover your eyes and are breathing fast. It’s clear that you feel afraid. When we think of fear, our first reaction is probably a negative one. After all, who wants to be afraid? Why would we want to feel weak and helpless, or endangered?...

Don’t Expect a Quick Fix

Healing is a process that takes time. It’s important for the loved ones of men who are healing to understand that. Maybe you imagine your guy smiling and acting in healthy ways days from now. That’s not going to happen. Trauma happens quickly sometimes, but healing...