What’s Your Reaction to Fear?

Imagine you’re living in the stone age. You’re minding your own business when a bear runs out of the woods. How do you imagine yourself responding? Fear is a primal emotion. We often respond to modern day stressors in primitive ways — in the ways cavemen reacted...

Women Can Be Vital in Men’s Healing

When you think about discussing your trauma with the women in your life, how do you feel? For many men, doing so seems too shameful or risky.  It can be hard to get vulnerable around women, but they’re important to our healing. Manifestations of our trauma can...

It’s Never Too Late to Heal from Trauma

During my time helping men with trauma, I’ve come to understand a first step that needs to be taken in healing: awareness. If you won’t let yourself become aware of your trauma, you can’t heal from it.  You might start to be aware of difficult feelings, or...

Job Loss Can Cause Real Pain

Think about the last time you introduced yourself, or were introduced to someone by a friend. How long did it take before your job was mentioned? For many of us, our jobs are a huge part of our identity. Our work is what we spend much of our time doing, and is often...
When They Tell You to “Man Up”

When They Tell You to “Man Up”

How many times have you been told, or seen other men told, to “man up”? Those two words seem to come out of the woodwork whenever a man shows vulnerability or pain. The phrase “man up” makes it harder for men to heal, and warps our ideas of what ideal manhood is. It...